Snapshot of Farm Life.

I had visions of lots more blogging in this life, but alas, another blog post with an intro full of excuses about why it’s hard to keep up with this blog.  I guess that’s just the nature of the way I navigate my life.  So I’m going to skip all the excuses and jump right in.

Life here is full throttle.  Non stop.  While disconnecting from our old world and taking a step off the gird has slowed down our life in all the ways I hoped it would, the steep learning curve that comes with a whole new homesteading lifestyle has made us feel up to our necks most days.  Couple that with this great new challenge of homeschooling and you have a mom who is stretched thin again.  But I’m happy for the stretching.  It’s exactly what I had been craving for so long.  Lots of family time, lots of mom time, lots of one on one with kids.  I’m drinking in so much of it that I almost feel like I’m overdosing at times, but then I realized how fleeting it all is.  And I drink it in even deeper. 

Even though this life is hard work and dirty and full of new challenges and covered in kids and needs and logistical mazes, most nights Jeff and I fall into bed tired but happy that we’re here.  This adventure is giving us most of what we hoped for, and lots of great (gross, amazing, stretching, glorious, terrifying) surprises.

We’ve had a LOT of guests.  There were 6 weeks that were pretty much back to back guests.  It was so great to share this place with so many people we love.  Suddenly all family members have an interest in coming to visit (Boston was becoming a bit blasé)!  It has been fun to see different peoples reaction to our life here.  Everyone is blown away by the beauty of where we live, the coast side, the ocean, the cliffs, the green rolling hills, the vastness of the property we get to take care of, the redwoods.  But not everyone is quite as enamored by the dirt, the makeshift décor of our house, the lack of dishwasher and filtered water, the work, the things we have ‘let go’ like brushing hair.  I think lots of people think its a cool thing we’re doing, but most aren’t envious. 

We tried to maintain most of our routine through all these guests, but over the past few weeks with everyone gone things are really starting to gel.  And that feels good, most of the time.

Here’s a little snapshot of our lives right now.  It’s just going to be what comes to the top of my head so I can get something out there. I want to remember this life.  I know that when it’s over I’m going to ache for it, probably forever.  I don’t think I’m going to ache for the dirt or all the work or the dishes, but I’m going to long for these long days, all of us smoshed together by work and play and challenge and seclusion. 

I get up first.  Not at the crack of dawn because we’re on a pretty late schedule here.  But I try to get myself up before 7.  And I do, I wake up, without an alarm.  I’ve decided that I’m going to spend the rest of my life waking up to an alarm, so I don’t use one here.  The lack of imposed schedule is glorious and difficult.  I’m the one who has to make things happen through out the day.  There is no other schedule than the one I make, and if you know me, I’m bad at making schedules.  But I’m getting better.  Learning.  And also trying to let myself enjoy the lack of a ridged structure.  Who’s to say that’s really the best way all the time?

This morning time is glorious. The only time I have alone all day.  The farm waits out the window, still and serene and vivid green as I write my morning pages and study scriptures and plan the day.  (These morning pages – a brain dump -  are part of a program I’m doing called the Artists Way….maybe more on this later).  I then try to make it up to the platform.  A 15 min hike up and up, enough to get my heart pounding and my body alive.  I’ve been trying to do yoga up there most mornings, and it is truly glorious.  I love starting the day up high, with green as far as I can see. 

I intended to bring the “kid of the day” with me up to the ridge in the mornings.  Sometimes this happens, but only if they’re up and asking  So I have a nice balance of time alone up there and one on one time with a little buddy.

I come down to kids playing, waking up with each other, starting their adventures early and sometimes actually being on task getting their farm work done.  They each have different inside and outside chores that they have to complete before we start our morning meeting at 9:15.  These chores have shifted as farm work has shifted.   They feed animals, bring in wood, start up the wood stove, fold laundry, sweep and tidy boots, put goats out to pasture, chickens to free range, water plants, feed bees.   They’re getting pretty good at these jobs.  But we’ve seen the gritty work cycle play itself out over and over again.  Work is fun, work is hard and horrible and then work is gratifying.  

We’ve had lots of very heated, loud, shouting arguments about how these morning chores should shift around as they wax and wane between easy and hard.  I’m still hoping that one day my kids will magically be the hard gritty workers that envisioned farm kids to be.  They’re getting there, but it’s slow and bumpy.

Morning meeting is supposed to start right at 9:15 and I think we’ve hit that maybe 60% of the time.  The other 40% I’m late in getting us started because I’ve gone out to help a child with a chore and gotten caught up in getting other little things done….time ticking on. 

We start morning meeting with some scriptures and a prayer.  Then we go over family business, what is happening that day, family farm projects that need to get done, weekly assignments and points earned (maybe more on this later….this motivation system is constantly evolving).  Some weeks we talk about a composer or a philosopher or artist.  I hoped to do this more often, but man, there are a lot of idyllic things to do.  Can’t always get to all of them.

Then I read aloud.  This has always been one of my very favorite parts of being a mother and I love that it is so firmly built into our days here.  We have a goal to get through 120 books before the end of the summer.  Not all read alouds, this includes any book that anyone reads.  That might have been a bit ambitious because I think we’re only to 45, but we’re working hard on it and we all love it.  Lots of days it’s warmer outside than inside our house so we sit on the front porch, or out on the grass and read until it’s too hot and we have to go back in.    

After reading we head to the school room for writing.  I put on a ten minute classical song and the kids are supposed to write in their journals, quietly at their desks until the song ends.  Just whatever comes to their minds.  Kind of like my morning brain dump.  Mind you, this is what is supposed to happen.  In reality, most of the time people are snickering, fidgeting (especially now that the fidget spinner has appeared in our lives), worrying about what the other is or isn’t writing.  I’m trying to scramble to get the rest of the school day figured out, while also trying to keep them all on task.  It isn’t perfect.  But one of my mantras for this life is that it doesn’t have to be perfect to be perfect.  We are doing it and everyone is getting at least a few sentences in a journal most days. 

While we’re all at our desks in the school room Peter goofs around or does some handwriting worksheets while I do some dictation exercises with the three bigger kids.  We’ve been using a program called “Brave Writer” which I LOVE.  It has given me so much great direction in helping my kids think about writing in a new way.  What I love about Brave Writer is that it’s not really a curriculum, more of family lifestyle that helps develop the writing side of the brain. I love that one of it’s goals is to just help kids to not hate writing before their 12.  In the early years it focuses a lot on helping kids think in a way that will  help them write well.  Maybe more about this in a homeschool post that I hope to write, but may never get around to.

And this is when our day sort of falls into craziness.   Kids go off on their own to do math and to practice, but there’s usually lots of “breaks” taken in between and lots of mom hounding kids to get back on task.  My brain gets so flustered that sometimes all I can figure out to say to them is, “come on! do the thing! stay on task!” 

Some days work great.  The kids stay on task and get their stuff done by our late lunchtime because they know I'll give them a “jolly rancher” if they report back to me that they are done.  Other days there are too many exciting things waiting for them outside and they don’t get to their practicing or math or their jolly rancher.  I’m trying to roll with it all. Remember that we don’t have to get it right all the time. 

And ‘right’ is really relative.  If you look at things from my kids perspective, days that they don’t get it ‘right’ are usually full of getting lots of other things ‘right.’   A huge chunk of the ‘work’ of childhood is play, and they are sure getting that right here.  There are huge chunks of unstructured time and no screens.  They are alive, fully engaged, coming up with new things to do every day.  New ways to play, new things to build, new places to explore. New ways to be together.  I can see such strong friendships forming amidst the tension and grime.

Afternoons are usually filled with play and work.  Sometimes we all work together on a project, like planting trees or weeding or creating and moving mulch. But most days I’m lucky if I can engage one little helper.  And lots of times one little helper is much more enjoyable than a whole tribe.   Emmeline, surprisingly has been my best little worker.  She craves the one on one attention and has learned that she can get it by sticking by Jeff and I through a farm task.  I’ve loved the talks I’ve had with my kids while working.

We are learning all kinds of things here.  Most of our learning seems propelled by problems.  When problems come up we are trying to engage the kids in helping us find the solution.  We have to enlist them.  There are too many problems for Jeff and I to handle alone.  What is eating our plants? How can we create more mulch? How do we catch the gophers?  How can we get Mochi to stop killing chickens?  How do we help May well again?  When do we wean the goats?  How can we fix our horribly clumpy clay soil?  Of course, our kids don’t always take these problem solving responsibilities and run with them, but sometimes they do, and we’re just aiming for sometimes. 

Our house is dirty.  Not just messy like our house in Malden usually was, but dirty.  There are mice.  And spiders.  And spider webs. And it’s so hard to keep ants out.  And our toilets don’t sit square on the floor so they often stink more than they should.  Sorry if this grosses you out.  We try to keep it clean, but life is just dirtier here.  Our standards have slipped, which I worried about for a little while, and then I realized that in order to get what I want to get out of this life I need to embrace it.  All of it.  Dirt and all.

The goats are getting bigger.  No more bottle feeding.  Now our task with them is to get them to stay in the pasture we made for them.  We built our first fence when uncle Dan was around, but they keep finding ways out. 

The chickens are growing, and should all start laying any day.  We have one Americana who is laying beautiful blue eggs.  It is thrilling still to find her egg each day.

Mochi is getting better at doing his job.  She’s barking a lot at night, I think just keeping the deer away.  But it feels nice to have such a loyal guard.  She’s also taken to killing gophers instead of chickens, so that’s good.

Before embarking on this adventure I hoped to have lots of time to be present with my children. Check. We are together every day, all day.  This has taken a little getting used to, and there are lots of times that I wish I could send them all away for a few hours, or a few days, or maybe a whole month.  But then I remember that they are not going to be little forever.  And this slow, secluded life isn’t going to last forever for us.  In fact, it is likely going to be over before we know it.  And I try to just drink them in.  Drink and drink until I’m saturated and then drink some more.  One of the main things that drove us here to this adventure was this realization that kids grow up.  Fast. 

We’ve tried to get into San Fran as much as possible.  Having guests here has helped with this.  This is a city that I’m falling in love with.  Maybe it’s the fact that I can have green rolling hills in the morning and a city sunset in the evening and drive along the coast the whole way in-between the two.

I’m loving our little field trips into the city.  Especially loving the MOMA.

We’ve had a lot of really great grandparent time.  The Shumways come here to help us with projects and enjoy the peace and beauty of our spot on earth.  And we head to their beautiful home to enjoy the peace and beauty of cleanliness and a dishwasher.  Each kid has had their own special little sleep overs at grandma and grandpas and I can feel such strong, important bonds thickening up.  We are keeping bees here!  No honey yet, but lots of adventures getting the bees into the hive and putting on bee suits.  Only four stings….

The two big kids have learned to drive the ATV and the riding lawnmower and they are always eager to do any kind of work that involves anything with a motor.  We have banned any joy riding on the ATV, it is only for doing farm work.  I am quickly realizing that whenever they are begging to do work it’s because they think that they need to use the ATV to accomplish it.  I’ve gotten good at detecting this and helping them realize that they don’t need an all terrain vehicle to bring shovels back to the barn and such.  I do love it that they are learning to drive these machines.  They’re getting to be pretty good drivers.

Peter and Emmeline are thick as thieves here.  They spent the first few months in separate rooms until one day they BEGGED to share a room again.  Em reads aloud to Peter at night and then they stay up laughing and talking until I yell at them from downstairs to go to bed.  They play and play and play all day and are usually so pleased to do jobs together.

All four of them spend lots of time playing all kinds of things together.  This is a magical little window of time in our lives, when all four of them can engage in imaginative play.  Hazel isn’t too old for these things yet.  She’s just teetering on the edge, but has expressed to me that she knows that this might be the last era in her life when she can really be a real kid, and she’s milking it for all its worth.

The kids have really gotten into “survival” packs and have little bags or backpacks full of what they think they need to survive out there. Peter’s has a few stuffed animals, a water bottle and a sweater. No one really ventures too far to explore because they’re still all a bit nervous about mountain lions.  But there is a lot of afternoon exploring that happens.  And tree climbing and hole digging.  This is the stuff of childhood, no?

We’re trying to keep everyone going on their music.  Everyone is taking skype lessons aside from Peter who is taking from ‘Ms. Tunemaster.’  She looks an awful lot like me, but talks in a little higher voice.  Amazing how he responds so much better to his teacher than he does to his mother.  Skype lessons have been interesting, mostly working, sometimes the delay is a little hard.  But I’m glad that we don’t have to trek an hour away. 

Jeff has been traveling at least a week out of each month.  And boy is everyone thrilled when he returns.  He is a super hero around here. 

When Jeff’s not traveling he is off at the crack of dawn to work so that he can be home with enough daylight to get some farm work done. He works outside with the kids while I throw together some dinner and the sun sinks down.  We eat late on these nights, trying to scrape as much out of the daylight as we can.  I love looking out the window to the orchard, Jeff working on some project.  He is in his element as a farmer.

But, sadly, it turns out we’re not too great at farming.  Peter said to me the other day that we’re not really farming, we’re more like gardening.  I asked him why and he said it’s that we’re not really growing  a lot of one thing.  Good observation.  We are trying lots of things and have been encouraged by our friend who owns the place to fail fast.  So we’re throwing it all out there, experimenting, trying to solve some of the problems.  Some things are working, but some are failing.  We’ve planted things in the green house, in the ground, we’ve mixed our clay soil in with sand to try to make it less clumpy, we’ve worked the ground with tractors and hoes and roto tillers and our bear hands.  We’ve added compost to some places, and manure to others, we’ve tilled in cover crop to improve the nitrogen in the soil.  We’ve put out slug traps and snake traps and gopher traps. We’ve built hoop houses and put up bird netting and deer fencing and cd’s to scare away stuff.  We’ve transplanted so many beautiful plants from the green house that have been eaten up and withered the next day.  I’d say about a third of our hard work is turning into something that we can eat, but 2/3’s is just turning into great experience and knowledge to put in our back pocket. 

 

I listened to a great talk by Liz Wiseman that talks about the power of not knowing.  How there is a rookie advantage when you really don’t know what you’re doing because you enlist the help of others,  you ask questions, you try different things, and ultimately you can end up at a different place.  I’m hoping that’s us.  This is a lunch I made myself with a farm fresh egg and micro greens from our garden.  It was a little gritty with dirt, but oh so satisfying to eat from the fruit of our labors.  Hoping for more of this. 

Turns out the Shumway Family Farm academy is teaching all kinds of things.  Even gun safely.  Dan has some guns and taught the kids to shoot, which was almost as cool as the ATV.  I’m hoping to get Hazel to write a post about all the strange and memorable things we’re learning here at the academy.

At night we usually have a late dinner, after all the animals are safely in and counted and the chores have wrapped up.  We sit in our slanted dining room (one end of the table is about 6 inches lower than the other end) and we talk.  When Jeff is around the conversation usually consists of him answering all kinds of random questions that the kids have.  That Jeff knows a little bit about everything it seems like.  The conversation gets too geeky for me pretty fast.  And I love it.  I think dinner time might be the most informative part of the Shumway Family Farm Academy. 

We’ve all come a long way cleaning the kitchen together.  Jeff is the task master and keeps everyone going, feeding me dishes to wash by hand.  I really like being the dishwasher.  Something so routine and cathartic about it.

We read together at night.  All snuggled close.  Even on the weekends.  The internet here is too slow to stream movies and we don’t have a big screen anywhere, so instead we pop popcorn on weekends and read our read aloud.  There are lots of times that we all (maybe especially me) really long to just watch a movie together.  But I’m soaking this reading time in.  Like I said, it’s my favorite part of mothering.  The time when I feel for a second like I’m being the mom I thought I'd be.   There are plenty of other times when I feel like a witch I never intended to be.  So I try to stretch these idyllic moments out, lay them carefully over all of our minds, wrapping up our memories in them.

It isn’t perfect here.  It’s farther from the general perception of perfect than I think we’ve ever been.  It’s messy and unstructured and bumbling. But it’s closer to my kind of perfect.  It’s perfectly imperfect.  Full of flaws and real living.  Full of open spaces and time and togetherness.  It’s a rough rocky road at times, but these are the things that are undoubtedly pulling us all together.  I am loving the mark this is making on all of our lives.

Snapshot of our life right now–Winter 2016

I haven’t written down a snapshot of our life for a while now…but I love doing it.  Something about stepping back and documenting the every day happenings around here helps me see the bigger picture, and I’ve learned that seeing the whole makes all the little parts (both the dull and the shining) work together to create something beautiful.  So here goes (in 20 min before I’ve got to dash).

• First?  I like to dumpster dive.  I just have to admit it.  I’m always scanning piles of trash on trash day to see if there are any treasures left for me.  This particular pile of trash gifted us a perfect bookshelf for Charlie’s under the bed workshop.  Sure it was used and not well made to begin with, but you can’t really argue with free!  I’ve really found a lot of great things on the side of the road.  (Jeff may be a little embarrassed that I’m admitting this).  I’m all about recycling though, does that make it more acceptable?
• I have a lot more time during the day without kids, which actually doesn’t free me up as much as I though it would.  There are still just as many things to do, and now with big kids staying up late to finish things up I no longer have my evenings.  So life is still full. I do have to say thought, it’s nice to have so many big chunks of time to get work done without a toddler or baby to interrupt my thoughts.  I’m starting to get my brain back a bit, and now that it’s coming back I can’t imagine how I did so much with so many little kids in tow.
• And on that note, just this morning I was thinking about how much more freedom I have suddenly as a mom.  No more car seats to buckle, I have a lot more driving to do with things kids are involved in, but I can leave little kids home with big kids for drop offs and pick ups.  Hazel has started babysitting for us so we can go on a close by date, and she LOVEs it.  We all do.  That is freedom!  I don’t have to get up in the night ever, and if I do, it feels strangely nice, reminiscent of all those mid night hours I burned in getting us all to where we are now. I love crawling back into a warm bed to go back to sleep. I always feel really grateful at that moment (reminiscent I think of all those nursing hormones that made me feel so happy as I fell back asleep).  Anyway, things are shifting and feeling harder and more constrained on on end, but freer on the other. 
• These big kids of ours are getting more and more stretched by school and other stuff.  We’re trying our best to preserve their childhood, and I think they’re not too overscheduled, but still, there’s a lot more expected of them.  And they are raising to the challenge (maybe bumping their way along the road is a better way to say it).  They really do own the work they have to do, we don’t help them much.  That means they are often getting up at 5am to finish projects that they’ve mismanaged and sometimes not getting things done just right or on time, but they’re learning lessons and working hard and making corrections and I really think that’s what it’s about. 
• We’ve gone through so many Saturday chore variations.  For about two years we were having our kids spend about an hour (or two if they’re totally distracted for most of it) cleaning their rooms and their “zones.”  It wasn’t my favorite part of the week, in fact, I was always so happy to have something that got me out of being there to be the task master.  It’s so much easier to clean things yourself, and I do such a better job.  But I firmly believe that these kids need to know how to work hard.  They did a pretty good job with this system, but we’ve just changed it up in the last month and I think we all like the change (probably mostly because it’s new).  Now I write a list of 8 chores that really need doing and the kids each pick two and they seem recharged and ready for this new system.  I think it’s just refreshing to switch things up every so often.  Not sure how long this one is going to last.
• Also on Saturdays we get to go to the Malden High School swim clinic.  Our town isn’t swanky by any stretch, but I love it.  There are lots of cool things going on, and one of them is swim clinic.  Every other Saturday during the winter the high school swim team runs a free clinic for anyone who wants to join.  This means that each kid usually gets his/her own teenage coach for an hour.  They have so much fun swimming.  And Jeff usually takes them which gives me a big chunk of time to clean the house the way I want it cleaned!

• Mornings have suddenly become quite lively around here.  For some reason both my big kids have decided that they’d rather do their homework early.  So they get up.  Guys, they get themselves up!  Early!  I never ever thought that would happen when this year started.  It was painful to try to drag them out of bed.  But somehow things have shifted and we’ve settled into an earlier morning.   The big kids get up sometime between 5 and 6.  They do homework and practice and get ready while I run.  Hazel always wants some time to read or play her little imagination games (she’s still such a kid at heart).  Strange to have my kids up before me….but I love it.  When I get home from my run it’s always a mad dash to get lunches made, bellies full, back packs packed, kids dressed.  Emmeline is always asking multiple times if we’re going to be late, but we’re usually not.  They rush in usually seconds before the bell rings. 
• Our drives to school are much quicker this year since we don’t have a carpool.  We’ve had our share of stressful, complaining rides to school.  But I think I have to say that most of the time the drive is pleasant.  I love the chance to be together first thing, to listen to some fun music, or work on memorizing something.  We always have a quick prayer before they barrel out of there and run in.  I love it how Charlie always waits for Emmeline and they run in together, sometimes holding hands, their backpacks bouncing behind them. 
• The kids stopped walking home from school like they did in the fall.  It’s too cold.  So I pick them up at the corner.  This is kind of big for me.  With no kindergartener I can sit lazily in my car and wait for them to walk to me.  Sometimes I miss the school yard, but most of the time I love catching my breath.  If I’m late they walk to the convenience store for a treat.  That’s not my favorite, since it’s always candy. 
• We still only have one bathroom, and it’s a tiny one.  And it’s pink.  And I’m so grateful for it. One toilet is tricky with six busy bodies in the house, but we’re making it work.  There’s an open door policy and a non-transparent shower curtain and only a few fist fights over who gets to go in first.  We have explored every option out there for obtaining a second toilet, but they’ve all failed us.  We’ve all spent energy complaining over our toilet poverty and it’s given us the chance to think about so many people in the world who don’t even have running water.  One toilet is better than none!  We are the second owners of our house since 1927.  The family who lived here before raised four children here to adulthood. If the Eisners did it, so can we.  So we’re embracing it, making it a part of our family culture.  As Hazel says, “We’re the Shumways with one toilet!” 
• We’ve been spending a lot of time at the rock climbing gym.  I found out that our insurance will pay for three months of family gym membership, so I found the funnest (and most expensive) gym to join and we committed to going every chance we get. We are all (with the exception of Jeff) loving the challenge, the chance to be active with all the cold, the adrenaline that pulses through us as we climb so high.  I love being out of the house a few afternoons a week for a few hours.  Makes me engage, and that feels good.  
• I still get Peter to myself for some chunks of time during the week.  He is such a great little companion.  Always full of sunshine.  I especially love taking him to the grocery store.  Funny because I hated taking my oldest to the store.  It’s funny how much more enjoyable things get when you see them ending. 
• I snapped this picture of him one day at Market Basket.  That song from Groundhogs day, you know the one that wakes him up day after day, was on the overhead speakers as I shopped and it made me laugh.  Grocery shopping is just like groundhogs day.  Over and over and over. 
• And while we’re on groceries, my friend totaled up the number of hours she spends feeding her children.  35!  Isn’t that crazy, but I believe it.  It’s almost a full time job planning, shopping, loading, unloading, unpacking, putting away, prepping, cooking and eating and cleaning up.  I’m working on ways to simplify that without resorting to lots of processed/prepared food.  And that is hard to do! But we’re all working at it and we’re getting faster and better at it.  Any tips?  I’m always on the look out for basic, healthy, don’t-need-a-recipe ideas that use healthy ingredients that are easy-ish to keep on hand. I’m trying to figure out foods that don’t require as much planning and mind work.
• I’m also trying to use up leftovers more and Hazel came up with this brilliant plan called the left-over café. When the fridge is bursting with things that no one really is excited to eat up we get them all out and put them on the island.  Then everyone gets $10 from Em’s cash register and puts what they want on a plate.  The cashier then rings them up and puts it in the microwave and there you go, easy, recycled dinner and happy children.  Not sure how many times this will get them excited about left overs, but we’re going to exhaust this one.  
• We’ve had a really mild winter (especially when braced for something like last year).  But we have had a few storms.  I love watching my kids together in the snow.  I love it that they’re big enough to go play in it by themselves.  Peter and Emmeline last forever out there. 
• Speaking of Em and Peter.  These two are really such sweet friends.  80% of the time they play so nicely together.  I love what they play and how.  It’s mostly Em bossing around Peter, but most of the time she does it in a really loving way.  And she picks things to play that he really likes.  Their favorite lately is to play spies.  And I can almost always trick Em into getting their mission to be something that I need them to do for me (like clean the room).
• Em is still our organizer.  She lays out Peter's clothes, she knows where things are.  She reminds me of important things.  She is always up on her own.  And usually getting Peter up too.  We certainly aren't out of the woods with her, she is pretty uncontrollable at times, but when she is good, she is golden.

• It seems like we always have some kind of house project going on, whether it's one that is truly urgent or falsely urgent is under hot debate between me and Jeff.  I have found that the only way to get things done around here is to create a false sense of urgency and Jeff has seen through my designs.  Still, it seems there is always something that needs to be fixed or organized.  And I'm so thankful for a very handy husband who can help me make all my house dreams come true :).  My phone photo folder is always filled with pictures like this, things to show the home depot workers so that they can help us fix our problems.
• I spray painted the heck out of the inside of our rusting old medicine cabinet.  I know that rust is going to creep back in, but I’ll take that happy bring clean whiteness for as long as it lasts.   Amazing what a little change like that can make.  
• Peter and I are both really into Yoga lately.  He is happy as can be doing these funny youtube videos called "Cosmic Kids."  Try them, your kids will be hooked. And to me it feels like guilt free screen time.  I've been doing a very different youtube variety of yoga called the Yoga Fix 90 by Leslie Fightmaster (isn't that the greatest last name for a yoga instructor?).  I'm LOVING it.  Each session is about 30 min and if you watch it via youtube it will keep track of which ones you've done so that you can just start the next one when you have a free half hour.  I love that part about it, because I've been guilty many times of wasting all my allocated work out time to trying to figure out which workout to do.  I can't say enough good things about what Leslie is doing for my overall wellbeing.  I don't do it everyday like I think you're supposed to, but I'm finding the more I do it the more I want to do it.  It's a great combination of getting a workout and a massage and meditating all at the same time.   If you're newish to Yoga you might want to start with her 30 day beginner challenge. 
• Here’s classic Emmeline type A these days:
• Totally Em to “take a break to cuddle”  She’s a cuddly little biscuit.
• Peter’s quite into birthday party’s for his stuffed animals. This ^^ is Duke turning 1.  And there is always an assortment of action figures and little plastic dollar store barbies in our bath tub.  I find these things much cuter than I did when they belonged to Charlie and Hazel. The remnants of little imaginations strewn around the house are feeling more nostalgic since I know how quickly they’ll be gone.
• This is a horrible picture, but I want to document that we’re all going through a painting phase right now.  And our good friend Stacy comes over often to join in.  Got the planet idea from my new favorite artist friend Leslie Graff.  Her stuff is pretty amazing.
• Hazel is really turning into a great little funky artist.  Love her style.  And her high pony tail.  

 

• We’re trying (but mostly failing) to make Sunday walks in the cemetery a regular occurrence.  It’s like pulling teeth to get these kids outside after we get home from church and fed.  But we are all always filled with life and vigor when we do. 
• And I love the chance to be unplugged from all my duties and just be with my kids.  I wind up noticing things about them that I don’t see when I’m hustling us through every day.  Like these eyelashes!
• Em is into fashion.  High heels and all.  who’s she gonna be? 
• This is starting to feel like more of a snapshot of Emmeline and Peter.  But I guess the under documentation of the big kids is also a facet of our lives right now.  It’s just harder to get pictures of the big kids. Hazel is busy and it’s nearly impossible to catch Charlie in a photo (unless he is photo bombing or sneakily taking the picture of himself instead of of us). 
• I can’t for the life of me train my kids to stop stealing my phone and taking selfies. 
• Hazel finally got her own personal screen (ipod touch).  This was a big jump for us, I was worried that a screen would suck her away into a virtual world.  But she has loved feeing “trusted” and has been super awesome with it.  She doesn’t have internet, has only a few really pretty quirky cool game apps and spends most of her time on it editing pretty artsy photos and selfies.  She’s super responsible about turning it in at night and following the rules.  And she feels so much more freedom which has been good for all of us.
• We’re still trying and struggling to do scripture study.  Jeff has decided that 2 verses each is all we can handle and I’ve quit resisting this decision.  He’s a wise dad and finally we’re making it through without someone storming off.  Any brilliant family scripture study ideas out there?
• We’re loving this granola recipe from my bro Jo and adapted by my SIL Julie.  It’s just so darn hard to keep it in stock.

• The Krucks are still a huge part of our life.  Heidi is my friend who is always up for adventuring together or with our kids.  And these two new addition Krucks are such good friends to Em and Peter.  Full of life.
• And Heidi is the friend I wish everyone could have. She is a constant.  Always there, always dependable, always helpful, always someone who can help me see more clearly.  We still run together most mornings and processing life with her has helped me navigate so many challenges.    
• This little text convo ^^ was from a pretty rotten day.  I’ve always toyed with the idea of homeschooling my kids, teaching them is my favorite part of motherhood.  So on our second snow-day in a row I decided I’d do a mock homeschool day, see what it might be like to have all four at home.   I had great visions of so many great things we could do together.  But boy was it a disaster.  Lots of fighting and resisting and frustration.  Of course I don’t think homeschooling them would look quite like what I had planned for that day, of course we’d settle into a better rhythm, but boy, that was a tough one.    At Heidi’s urging I went out for a little walk right at sunset after a heavy wet snow.  It was just the balm my soul needed.   

 

• I think this instagram post came in that same day too.  God was looking out for me I think.

 

• I spend a lot of my time during Boston’s February and March checking weather in other places and dreaming we lived someplace where it’s sunny and 72 for ten days in a row.  I’m trying my best to soak in the chaos and mayhem of this phase of our lives.  The crowed kitchen full of hungry growing children, the growing bigger bodies filling up every inch of our lives.  We are all becoming and while there are plenty of growing pains for all of us,and as challenging as it is,  I’m realizing as I write and look at these photos,  the whole of it is pretty incredible.